Comments on: What Our Parents Forgot To Tell Us About Falling In Love

By: Astrokarthikji

Astrokarthikji — Thu, 25 Jul 2024 07:15:57 +0000

Matthew Hussey’s insights on real-world love are incredibly refreshing and practical. His advice is not only grounded in reality but also deeply empowering. A must-read for anyone seeking to navigate the complexities of modern relationships with confidence.

By: thulsidass

thulsidass — Thu, 18 Jul 2024 13:58:28 +0000

Thank you for sharing such insightful advice Your guidance on real-world love is practical and inspiring. Keep up the great work.

By: Jade fortuna

Jade fortuna — Mon, 08 Jan 2018 10:48:18 +0000

Well my man is 40 yrs old n I’m 37 n he’s been cheating on me with a man we stay with n he cheated on me with a woman at the gathering of jugglos so he has a porn video so he tells me it’s not true he’s not cheating so I let it go n n he’s really crazy okay n he gets mad over stupid crap n sometimes I don’t make him mad someone else will but he says to me he need space he never has time to his self he’s always with me 24/7 so I tell him I can move out u was the one that ask me to move in with u n we been together for like two yrs now so he asked me to marry him we propose to me at the gathering of jugglos icp concerts were he cheated n he still lies n says it’s not him but I asked him to make love to me n he keeps saying he’s not in the mood or he’s old but we only have sex once a day sometimes two when ever he’s in the mood n yes I’m a kinky woman okay I buy some nice very sexy kinky toys n sexys night’s okay I even bought his favorite the wonder woman outfit okay so I roleplay with him n he does drugs I don’t do drugs he smokes weed everyday n when he don’t have his weed all hell breaks loss man he gets mad starts throwing stuff around but I told him I’m trying very hard here n he don’t work he tells me he don’t need to work he can use no arm vet man we stay with money so I told him look I love u but we need r own house n own car n Everytime I get a job n he tell me the pay check is for his weed n his lover no arms man liquor money so I stopped working bcaz I work hard to make better for us but he not ready

By: Anke

Anke — Tue, 07 Mar 2017 07:20:58 +0000

Exactly what you said, putting your heart in someone else’s hands, believing in them because you know they are the right one for you, even through hardships. Wanting to make them laugh and smile, wanting to spend your life with them because they just feel so right and perfect – no matter what!

By: Nancy

Nancy — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 20:17:59 +0000

Love is someone who won’t give up on you and will not stop fighting for you no matter how much or how hard you push them away because of fears or insecurities you have.

By: Reba

Reba — Fri, 22 Apr 2016 06:02:12 +0000

Everything I read here is beautifully true. I’ve had the honor and privelage to watch my own parents’ true love story unfold now for 50 years. It’s been incredibly hard work. But what they say is that they have gotten the chance to fall in love with one another again & again throughout their lives together. They have reinvented their relationship more than once & after 30 years had new wedding rings made & wrote new vows, recreating their commitment to one another based upon who they had grown to become. They have given me(and all they touch,) the incredible gift of seeing love in action. Their love has formed an incredible foundation for our family, and the life they have built together shows the fruits of their dedication to fulfilling their commitments to love through the ups and downs of life. They are not resigned. They are alive, healthy, joyful people & they give me faith that I too can find this kind of love & give everything I have to learning how to fully and truly love the man I give my heart and my life to. True enough- real relationship can be painful. But the reward of working through those painful places is finding love with one another once again. It takes courage, but from where I sit observing my parents, the reward is truly worth the hard work!!

By: JANA

JANA — Mon, 31 Aug 2015 02:00:36 +0000

What is written above is beautiful writing, poetics and it is heartfelt. Yes, love has to be created day by day as everything in this universe it stops to exist without that.
I trust true relationship is based on affinity (affection), common reality, good communication, admiration and HONESTY. (not mention here, but important one lack of it, gives the pain).
Falling in love is not love, it is just chemistry, important one to start and share it. But what if we meet somebodys chemistry when our love gets older? There is plenty of people to have chemistry with… Control and self discipline and responsibility for our decision is the answer. We can always meet somebody who seems to us new and more younger, beautiful, inteligent and funny. New will fade. Well, the right of choice is above responsibility.
But if you made choice by decision, and after you have change, change, change, you never really Have.
What is life partner more than a helper for life plus sex, rearing childern? Admiration. Yes, you can forget the flowers and the romantic crap but it is the decorations and ornaments in the game. It is showing interest and gives attention. Love – you can see it as exchange of admiration and sympathy. You have to create magic. The more seriously take the game the less chance to win. If only duties left? oh no..
For this reason people like to mate with others who has fun with, they instinctively know that. They know sane and healthy people smile.
In any game is the risk of injury and suffer,loss, in any area of life. Always are there some barriers to overcome and some rules and freedom.
Mr. Hussey you are a exquisit guy and wise one and you are loved by many because you have affinity, you can speak the way real to others and you have great communication and honesty as well. You give exchange in abundance, more than is expected and you deliver what is needed and wanted – you help women to be godess not doormates, to have self respect, to grow up ..it is why you are succesful gentle-man, Sir. Admiration. Maybe – love is the biggest secret of universe.:)

By: Christina

Christina — Sun, 07 Jun 2015 20:29:22 +0000

In reply to Emily.

Emily,
Pieces of this resonate so strongly for me! He stopped contributing even his paltry portion of the relationship-work, so I worked all the harder. (“For the children,” you know. His. Children…) Thank you for this validation.
“…what I’m really doing is enabling someone to treat me badly…”
Truth.
And “…bending over backwards to allow him to treat me however he wanted…with very little negative consequence to him.” Ouch! Love it, marvelous :)
We broke up almost 3 years ago. I catch a ream of excuses rolling around in my head these days, I reach into my Fussy Hussey treasure trove.
I am grateful…because of him, I set forth on a quest, to learn how I want to be loved. So I can then clearly communicate it, for with that knowledge comes also the requisite confidence to convey my truth & support my boundaries.
Bonne chance, ma belle!

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 11 May 2015 23:34:56 +0000

I agree with everything you say in this post and yet it’s a tricky area. I was with a guy on and off for several years, in a relationship which, if someone hears about it, will elicit the reaction that I was crazy to put up with it for so long. Or crazy to get into it in the first place. There were some challenges from the beginning, regarding his ex and the child they hadn’t really worked out custody of yet (long story). There were signs all over the place that this was a bad idea, but I always thought, this is something I can work with; no one’s perfect, relationships take work, I can compromise and be flexible, etc. Things were rocky, but I figured I liked him enough to stick around and do the hard work needed to see us through to when things weren’t so rocky. But they were never going to get there. Partly cause I was the only one doing the work–though I only figured this out later; for a long time, I thought that I was just being supportive while he was going through a tough time, but what I was effectively doing was bending over backwards to allow him to treat me however he wanted (which is essentially what he was doing to his ex, come to think of it) with very little negative consequence for him.

It was hard work, and it was mostly thankless, and it was ultimately futile, and at the end of it I felt pretty stupid. I’ve gotten past that, and I’m not sorry about anything, but I hope I never fall into the trap again of thinking I’m doing the hard work of a relationship when what I’m really doing is enabling someone to treat me badly and spinning my wheels in a muddy rut.

There’s hard work and then there’s beating your head against a brick wall. May we all be granted the wisdom to know the difference.

By: Maria

Maria — Mon, 27 Apr 2015 00:38:43 +0000

I loved this video…so much tenderness shines through the grit!
It is actually quite sad how our expectations of love and romance have become tainted by fairy tale, “hearts and flowers”, pseudo-romantic crap, while this, in it’s rawness, cuts through to the essence.

If I were to try and summarise love I’d say (top of mind) respect, trust, acceptance, admiration…love should bring out the best in us.

p.s. one minor objection to the title of this post…”falling in love” is the easy part