Comments on: They Told You They Wanted a Break? The Perfect Response…

By: Skorpija

Skorpija — Sat, 26 Sep 2020 09:59:43 +0000

I think theres no perfect answer. If he/she wants to brake, thats it.

By: Paulette

Paulette — Tue, 22 Sep 2020 23:25:12 +0000

I wish I had this info before. It makes so much sense and if it makes sense..it’s true!

Thanks so much for sharing!!

By: Careen

Careen — Mon, 21 Sep 2020 14:59:46 +0000

This is remind me to the past 5 years ago..
I ve met the things you elaborate up there..
One thing i hit the time.. when he said he wants me go to find an attorney to divide our things n he think to get marry n bring my eldest kid with him.. at that time.. we only ordinary people.. cause i sold a store house given by my dad few years before marriage.. we’ve little things..
That time both our kids are 5 n 6 years old.. i can not imagine.. how to raise them up alone.. n face the judgement od surrounding..
I keep silent n was confussion.. then went to my little brother home n tell him my strugles.. until i can accept the fact.. that i ve face long suffering
Few years later.. i understand.. it is wrong to hold people whom want to go out from your life.. lots suffering come then.. me n my eldest daughter often getting lots beaten everytime we doing wrong according to his eyes.. until someday.. he feel old, tired n stop to beat us..
Honestly.. i still feel grateful.. cause.. i know God works in everything in our life.. i feel happy still have my adorable kids until today.. even i’ve to drain my tears along the way..
Thanks Matthew.. next time your words will be apply..
No.. no.. i still choose to follow my God.. i know He always knows the best for His people

By: I'm With Me Always

I'm With Me Always — Sat, 19 Sep 2020 23:04:41 +0000

Why bother with steps #1 & #2?

Moving straight to Step 3 — a break UP — seems like the truly right move to me

The ‘why’, or the ‘honesty’ around that ‘why’… well the honesty (assuming it ever was there to begin with, it may not have been) clearly stopped being there the instant the other person started thinking ‘break’ (or ‘break-up’, but they’re too ‘polite’ / timid / untruthful to say it).

If I start to wonder ‘how long?’ the other person has felt like they couldn’t speak up in whatever this ‘situation’ is, then I KNOW they aren’t right for me either. My right person doesn’t agonize or doubt or suffer in silence. My right person has a stronger character than that, he speaks up or he lets it go.

And ‘their’ reason(s) ‘why’ I am not ‘right’ for them, isn’t (aren’t) really my problem(s). Other than maybe an unessential to me behavior on my part that I feel like correcting, there’s nothing I can do for them.

I’m not looking to be their therapist or their ‘second best’ thanks.

And if I’m just a ‘pastime’ for a person, well then I’m going to pass ON that person immediately.

I am who I am, I truly like me as I am & if all of a sudden I’m ‘wrong’ to them, then I’m wrong FOR them.

No need to be wishy-washy about whatever is bothering you. Say it & leave already without looking back.

I know how to be happy being just with myself, I don’t need someone else to be my happiness, I make my own & I have since I was a child.

And Question 2 is just ‘what?!?!’.
I don’t see a ‘team’ here.
For all I know, maybe there never was a team here.

I don’t want or need any life partner to be my therapist or my life coach or my Professor Henry Higgins. The name on my birth certificate isn’t ‘Miss Eliza Doolittle’. Pygmalion is a myth, it’s not a ‘how to’ manual for living one’s life.

Limerence is a hell of a drug but it should never be confused with love.

By: Charlie

Charlie — Sat, 19 Sep 2020 15:54:13 +0000

Hi Matt, thank you I really needed this. I have some personal questions on a related matter and would love your opinion if you could get back to me via email. Thank you.

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Sat, 19 Sep 2020 13:04:31 +0000

That is exactly what I said to my ex and the father of one of my sons seven years ago and I moved to a new city with my three sons… I have never regretted it… It was one of the best decissions I’ve had in my life…