Comments on: Women’s Safety – It Belongs to All of Us

By: Iskander

Iskander — Wed, 31 Mar 2021 03:38:21 +0000

Matthew, men are reacting with #NotAllMen not because their message is “It wasn’t me” or wish to escape the discussion of the problem. This reaction has a solid reason behind it – men are abused and threatened. Every day. Constantly. Often by women. Men do not feel safe anymore because there is a dangerous agenda that uses tragedies (like that happened with Sara) to limit male human beings in their rights. Your video and discussion have best intentions underneath, however it will be used by certain parties to conduct another message which is ‘Men have no right to be men’. Bad persons are among both sexes. And for the crimes and awful wrongdoings of such people that are minority society punishes majority of men. Nobody mentions, though, thousands of men get killed, raped, abused or simply offended on a regular basis. Women have a strong support from feminist groups and progressive public speakers while men are portrayed as inborn monsters. It’s a tunnel vision again: you see female victims, ignoring male ones.

By: Helen

Helen — Tue, 30 Mar 2021 12:41:21 +0000

I recently read a really excellent book which touches on many of these issues (and more) – ‘Invisible Women’ by Caroline Criado Perez. Highly recommended for anyone who wants to delve into not only the everyday fears which we experience as women, but the way in which science, medicine, even town-planning or car design, leave women worse off, in more danger, or unaccounted for (e.g. lighting bus stops in less well-frequented urban areas meant that women felt much safer taking buses – but committees of all-male planners never even thought of installing them).

Fantastic video; thank you for sharing.

By: Larsen

Larsen — Mon, 29 Mar 2021 20:30:50 +0000

90% of attack are comited by muslims, and they are only maybe 10% of the poppulation. Listen to Tonny Robinson.

By: Daniela Zaharov

Daniela Zaharov — Mon, 29 Mar 2021 16:22:09 +0000

You just made me cry. Thank you!

By: Jules

Jules — Mon, 29 Mar 2021 07:07:37 +0000

Thank you for this video, it gives me hope that there are men who are actually listening and showing empathy by bringing up solutions to the issue rather than being defensive and playing the victim. If more men can actually reason this way, women will feel less threatened and a little more safe. Thank you

By: Cammy

Cammy — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:53:57 +0000

Thank you for making this video. It is a conversation that needs to be started. So many men do not understand the psychological toll that pervades our lives. The sincerity and authenticity that you demonstrated gives me hope that our world can become a better place.

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:42:56 +0000

Thank you, thank you, thank you for starting this conversation. I often myself preach about needing the good men, the men who say ‘but I’m not one of “those” men’ to step up and be an ally to women.
The trust for a lot of women has been broken and we need other men to help us repair that or it hurts us all.
The fact that most women I know have a deeply disturbing story about an interaction they’ve had with a man that impacted them very negatively tells me this needs more attention.
We really do need men and society to step up to help us feel at least a little bit more safe when being out in the world.
You said it well when you spoke about women just wanting an understanding of what it’s like to often be fearful.
I do feel that this matter is now in the hands of men, and I hope that they will put ego aside and listen to this and take it in. Thanks again Matthew.

By: Carol

Carol — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 22:08:56 +0000

It really hurts me the most as a woman to what happened..Most men are kind and loving, but as for the man who Taken the life of the lovely Woman he shall be punished.. The world is less safe for woman to walk freely and express themselves in oucommunity.. #protectwomen

By: Jenn

Jenn — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 16:30:39 +0000

Thank you! This was respectfully done with tact and grace. Tears stream down my cheeks, as I felt all of the feelings to my core when describing all the sceneries mentioned the fear that we face daily just walking down the road, getting in a lift/Uber, a man in the elevator I’m about to get in, walking on a trail with my kids and and countless more, while just doing life. Always on high alert of every situation, that consistent fear is overwhelming and exhausting. Most all situations, I feel bad that I put off a defensive fearful energy, but maybe it can be understandable with this message. I’m hopful this message is heard with an open mind and sincere authentic Empathy…

By: Eleanor

Eleanor — Sun, 28 Mar 2021 15:57:45 +0000

This post is excellent for two reasons. First of all, it expresses my emotional experience as a woman at such a level of clarity that I myself am not always capable of in my communication with the people around me, in particular with men. Secondly, it explains things in such a calm and logical manner that I suppose any man who reads this would be able to understand our experience as women better. Thank you very much, Matthew, for expressing your empathy for women while making our experience comprehensible to men.