Comments on: The BRUTALLY Honest Truth About What Makes A Successful Relationship

By: Joanna Lavarias

Joanna Lavarias — Wed, 06 Feb 2019 22:16:42 +0000

Love all whatever circumstances love the bad side and turn learn how to cope in a good … Like all no rule if really love each other but no love or deep feeling no doubt it collapse

By: Damian smith

Damian smith — Wed, 06 Feb 2019 15:05:28 +0000

Your of course right but fail to mention the very reason the arguments start to come in to the relationship that also follows the 80/20 rule. When sex is great in a relationship it is 20% of the relationship and you have a closeness like no other time and when it’s bad is 80% of the relationship and you are further apart than ever and argue more. Men and women are different women love through emotions and can get that without the physical side, men need validation, desire and feel worth to feel truly loved this can only be completely achieved through sex, this is not understood enough especially by women and men are perceived as just after a physical gratification when they want/need sex and this is just not true, sort the sex life in the relationship and the rest will follow..

By: Hadar

Hadar — Wed, 06 Feb 2019 09:03:18 +0000

OMG. I just talked about it with my bff after my last breakup. The whole 80/20 rule. Its really right

By: Ally

Ally — Wed, 06 Feb 2019 02:30:09 +0000

Great article stephen and realistic.. sometimes we all get carried away with a “dream” and wonder why we are disappointed when it doesn’t match up

By: Anju

Anju — Tue, 05 Feb 2019 22:47:27 +0000

Boom. This is amazing!

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 24 Jan 2018 01:55:03 +0000

Really good article, Stephen.

By: Candy

Candy — Tue, 23 Jan 2018 15:00:37 +0000

So much truth! The litmus test is in how much torture the 20% is.

By: MaryBeth

MaryBeth — Mon, 27 Feb 2017 14:36:11 +0000

Stephen,

Great post! I don’t usually comment, but this one deserved it *virtual applause* #receiveit

This is the first I’ve heard of the 80/20 rule. It makes sense though, and is a good benchmark for judging the frequency to which a partner lives up to our standards. Stephen, do you find it’s harder to give yourself grace for your own ‘20%’ moments, or extend grace to your partner in their 20 moments?

I loved the self-awareness piece. ;) One of my favorite tenets is ‘Start as you mean to go on.’ Knowing what you want up front + sifting for it in the early stages = success!

I enjoy reading these! They are as enlightening as they are applicable.

Many thanks,

x MaryBeth

By: Ashleen Kaur

Ashleen Kaur — Sat, 25 Feb 2017 20:35:00 +0000

Wow. I wish i could read this when i was younger.

By: Daina

Daina — Thu, 30 Jun 2016 19:02:20 +0000

Hello…
I’m a bit curious. Nowadays, we often see the quote “find a man who remind you of your father” ,but well, different men grew up in different environment. Some of them were lucky enough to be in very good environment but some of them were not. And yeah nobody is perfect. Then we tend to say no to a man without even trying to bring out the best in him. On the other hand, a woman can get really freak out when her man starts to compare her with his mother in every ways. I don’t really see the rational of this kind of comparison. I think this kind of comparison is a bit different than the usual where people usually compare their partners with other people, but in this case, they compare their partners with someone they adore,love & care about. I just wanna ask for your view.